WHERE THIS SITS
Not a clinician. A guy with a notebook.
None of this is a therapy modality, and I’m not a peer of the people who practice one. It’s my understanding of a few ideas that helped me get through my own life, written down carefully enough that someone else might use them. If you want the real thing, this is roughly where each piece comes from.
- THE STORY THAT FORMS · STEP 3
- Narrative therapy, and the cognitive side of CBT: the thought that sits between the event and the feeling.
- THE UNIFORM, THE SCRIPT · STEP 2B
- Internal Family Systems, and Jung before it: the part of you that learned to run the room.
- THE BODY GOES FIRST · STEPS 2C, 2D
- Polyvagal theory and the stress research. The nervous system has a say before you do.
- HOW A MESSAGE IS SENT · THE MAILBOX
- The Gottman work on couples: the gentle start-up and the twenty-minute break.
- WHAT THEY DO OVER WHAT THEY SAY · TRUST WEIGHT
- Costly signaling, from biology rather than psychology.
A good therapist will do more with these in an hour than this site can. The site is for the drive home afterward.